Why You Should Never Make New Year’s Resolutions


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It’s that time of year again.  The time when one year has closed out and a fresh, new year is beginning.  It’s a shiny, purposeful time of year when people start planning how they’re going to make this new year “the one” that will make all the difference in their lives.

FireworksBut sadly, by about Feb 1st, the shimmer of those New Year’s Resolutions starts to fade.  The goals that were plugged into smartphones or calendared into apps have gotten pushed to the bottom of the proverbial pile along with the bones of Resolutions of Years Gone By.

That’s why I say you should never make New Year’s Resolutions.  At least NOT until you’ve done these three things first…

But before I tell you what they are, here’s a little insight.  You see, most people don’t get what they want–they don’t achieve their goals–because they don’t really know what they want.  And without knowing what they really want, they can’t take the meaningful actions that will create the momentum to get from where they are to where they want to be.  That’s why so many people fall short and fall off the wagon by Feb 1st.

So how do you know what you really want?  Do this first:

  • List 20 things you want to do
  • List 20 things you want to have
  • List 20 things you want to be before you die

Sound easy?  Maybe.  What’s required is that you put some serious thought into making these lists.  Once you’ve done so, then you can work on making your New Year’s Resolutions or setting those all-important goals.  When you work from these lists to develop your goals and resolutions, you’ll have the clarity to see the bigger picture and how your action (or inaction) will affect your eventual outcome.

So take the time to write out your 20 Things lists and then get to work on your New Year’s Resolutions.  Make this “the year” you actually achieve what you set out to do.

Wishing you all the best in this bright and shiny New Year!

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"I'm a Hawaii-based success coach, motivational speaker, fine art photographer and writer. Retired from the U.S. Air Force, so I'm passionately patriotic. I love to read and usually have six books and two cats in bed with me at the same time. I love photographing sunrises and sunsets, walking along the beach with my toes in the sand, and sipping coffee with friends. My biggest thrill is coaching with people and watching them have aha lightbulb moments and slapping their foreheads saying, "Why didn't I think of that?!" If you'd like a complimentary consultation and strategy session with me, visit my website at www.kathydavenportimagedesign.com.