From Love vs Infatuation to Confident vs Arrogant

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”Is Love at First Sight Real?”


Dear Dr. Gelb:

Do you believe in love at first sight? Is this what’s happening to me? Have I met my Prince Charming, finally?

Weak at the knees

Dr. Gelb Says . . .

Dear Weak Knees:

I do not believe in love at first sight. I believe that our five senses are susceptible to being captivated by someone’s looks, mannerisms and actions, possibly causing us to react with expressions such as, “Oh, what a hunk.” In my opinion, this is infatuation, although some people may interpret this experience as having the makings of love.

Having said that, infatuation can, in some instances, lead to the development of a relationship because this type of attraction causes people to want to spend more time with each other. In doing so, they then have opportunity to get to know each other and may find that this contact develops into a satisfying relationship. However, I think it’s a stretch to say that infatuation, alone, is a sure sign of compatibility and a potential long-term relationship.

”How to Tell Confidence from Arrogance?”

Dear Dr. Gelb:

My 8-year-old is into talking about how great she is — how she looks, her grades, how many friends she has. Is she arrogant, or is this confidence?

Proud Parent

Dr. Gelb Says . . .

Dear Proud Parent:

One explanation could be that your daughter may be trying to cover up a sense of inferiority. People who feel confident about themselves typically don