From Planning Ahead to Resisting Marriage

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”Future Travel – Why Not Now?”


Dear Dr. Gelb:

Why is it that before I go to a social event or something professional where I need to participate, I rehearse many scenarios in my mind of what the event will be like, so that I’m living a lot in the future. The event usually doesn’t turn out like I had rehearsed, but still it is hard to let go of all the thinking ahead. Any thoughts?

Forward to the Future

Dear Future:

It is difficult to predict the outcome of an event or what one may experience that will call on one’s professional expertise or social skills. The rehearsing is often a result of self-doubt and fear of perhaps making a fool of oneself. Acknowledgment of one’s skills and abilities invariably triggers needed self-confidence to be able to speak extemporaneously on topics related to one’s skills and abilities.

”Engaged – Is it Forever?”

Dear Dr. Gelb:

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