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    From Overspending to Mixed Messages

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    “Suzanne Gelb Image”

    ”Overspending, What’s the Price of Love?”

    Dear Dr. Gelb:

    My husband and I work hard to support our family of two kids. So I don’t understand why he doesn’t stick to our budget. He comes home with presents that we don’t need, like the latest PC when the one we have works fine, or buying pets for the kids, when we already have a dog and a cat. I worry that he is extending himself beyond our financial means. He says not to worry, he’ll pay off the credit cards. That doesn’t reassure me and I’m worried we’re headed for bankruptcy if he keeps this up.

    Overspending

    Dr. Gelb says . . .

    Dear Overspending:

    When people buy gifts excessively and even inappropriately, this can sometimes be due to the gift-giver experiencing a lack of self-worth, resulting in some type of effort to buy attention and praise.

    One way that some families have handled this, is for the family to have a round table discussion and share with gift giver (be it mother, father or older sibling, for example) how much that person is loved and hug them more often, telling them how important they are to the family and they don’t have to buy gifts to prove how much they love the family. Then the gift-giver can be reassured that the family knows they are loved, so there is no need to tax the budget by buying gifts to prove their love.

    ”Mixed Messages, What’s the Truth?”

    Dear Dr. Gelb:

    A few weeks ago I went on a blind date. I thought it was great and my date said he enjoyed it and would call me in a few days. We tentatively agreed on a movie to see this past weekend. He never called. I don’t understand the mixed message I got from him.

    Disappointed.

    Dr. Gelb says . . .

    Dear Disappointed:

    The scenario you describe is all too common. There are many reasons why people don’t follow through on their word, such as calling for a second date. Some have no intentions of following up; others actually really like their first date, but emotionally they may have a problem with commitment. This could cause them to not follow-up, or they may call, but not in the timeframe promised.

    If I were in your shoes, a few moments of disappointment is all I’d spend on this one, realizing that some people need a way out by expressing a lot of rhetoric. I’d consider the date a pleasant experience and get on with my life.

    ”’Suzanne J. Gelb, Ph.D., J.D. authors this daily column, Dr. Gelb Says, which answers questions about daily living and behavior issues. Dr. Gelb is a licensed psychologist in private practice in Honolulu. She holds a Ph.D. in Psychology and a Ph.D. in Human Services. Dr. Gelb is also a published author of a book on Overcoming Addictions and a book on Relationships.”’

    ”’This column is intended for entertainment use only and is not intended for the purpose of psychological diagnosis, treatment or personalized advice. For more about the column’s purpose, see”’ “An Online Intro to Dr. Gelb Says”

    ”’Email your questions to mailto:DrGelbSays@hawaiireporter.com More information on Dr. Gelb’s services and related resources available at”’ https://www.DrGelbSays.com

    Creating Your Own Business Success Story

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    “If you really own a business, why are you still working so hard?”

    I recently asked one of my coaching clients this question and his answer was riddled with confusion and frustration. Confusion in thinking that “hard work” and business ownership go hand-in-hand. Frustration that things didn’t get any easier in the last five years since starting his business.

    Have you ever found yourself thinking this way? Maybe you feel as if you’ve fallen into the trap of making a living, instead of living your dream? Meanwhile, one of the reasons you started your business was to enjoy more freedom — right?

    If that’s true and you’d like to learn how you can break through to the next level of business growth that will give you the performance, profits and personal fulfillment you’re really after — here’s a simple shift to make in your thinking.

    The “Real Challenge”

    “Running a small business can be a real challenge,” many people say. I hear it all the time from business owners yet that’s where so many entrepreneurs go wrong. They think they’re running a business, but they really have a job. When I work with business owners, I always start by clarifying whether they’re running a business — because if they’re not, that’s the place to start.

    A simple question you can ask yourself to find out whether you have a business or a job, is, “Are you getting up each and every day having to do the same things over and over again?” If you are, you don’t have a business — you have a job! And there’s very little value in a business that does not run without you there.

    After all, who would buy a job? The vast majority of equity in a business is in the development and regular implementation of systems. A business that is driven by systems will be your long-term investment vehicle, not a job. Systems mean freedom (not constraint) to each and every member of the team, not just you as the owner.

    Your small business holds the keys to your financial abundance, freedom, flexibility and personal fulfillment. But these are the results of a well designed, systematized business. The bottom line is you will either manage the systems that run your business — or your business will run your life.

    A systems-dependent business will provide the consistent, predictable results crucial to small business success. When it comes down to it, how else can you determine how much you

    City Extras Costing Honolulu Taxpayers Plenty

    So tell me people of Oahu, don’t you just love our potholes? Aren’t our streets just a wonderful patchwork quilt of varying shades and grades of asphalt? Don’t you just love bouncing your way down Beretania or Kalakaua or Kapiolani Blvd? Aren’t the growing cracks and crevices ever so pretty?

    So, you think you’ve paid no price for those pleasant On the Beach functions? Better think again. You think all those beautiful fountains and public works projects in Waikiki didn’t cost you anything extra? Better think again. It cost you plenty. It is costing you plenty still.

    An inkling of how much was documented in a May 5th, 2003 article in ”’The Honolulu Advertiser”’:

    “Hawaii motorists spend an extra $114 million a year in repair and operating costs because of poor road conditions. That comes out to $151 per motorist each year.”

    You see, the money that went into those ribbon cutting projects didn’t go into city upkeep of the roads, and eventually came out of your pocket anyway. The new set of shocks, the extra gas spent creeping around potholes, the fouled fuel injectors, the extra trips to jiffy lube, the flat tire, the new car you had to bite the bullet and buy because your old one was trashed, all were due in part to the rotten condition of our roads. You paid, you just didn’t know you paid. In fact, you paid twice. Once in taxes for the projects and once to repair your car. Isn’t your heart warmed to know the truth?

    Some of you paid in another way as well, from the same article:

    “Poor road conditions are a factor in an estimated 30 percent of traffic fatalities in the state.”

    Yes, some of you paid with your lives, and the lives of your loved ones.

    And the City and the Mayor are getting ready to do it to you again. Are you ready?

    It’s called the In-Town BRT.

    The Mayor and the City are planning to pour several million dollars a day into the roads for dedicated lanes for the BRT and leave the rest of us to rot. The projected cost of this project is around a $1 billion, give or take a few $100 million (Well … Give for sure, it will be guaranteed to have cost overruns, we are talking about government after all.) This will be $1 billion less from city coffers available for needed road and infrastructure repair and maintenance. Unless you are saying we can afford to pay taxes to do both. Oh, I see, you want to pay more taxes. OK.

    Well, in that case, you will pay twice. You will pay in increased taxes to build this thing, (Oh, didn’t the Mayor tell you he will have to raise your taxes to fund this yet? Just wait.) And you will pay in more car repairs and with your lives. All for the privilege of having fewer lanes in and out of Waikiki and for the downtown commute. Isn’t that just wonderful?

    I was driving into Waikiki the other evening to pick up my wife around 7:00 pm and I drove by the “B Express,” that huge articulated thing designed to move crowds. I pulled up one lane over at a light and could see clearly inside. There were 7 passengers. That’s it, 7 people in that huge fuel hog. We have such wonderful central planners, don’t we? Aren’t they ever so efficient?

    Yeah, yeah, I know we have the best bus system in America, it won all the awards and everything to prove it but Portland Oregon, where I am from, has a pretty good system too. It is run by its own agency called the TriMet. They even have the light rail that the City wanted to implement here, one upon a time. It is called The Max. Since it is a single agency they can’t hide their operation costs like the City can here. Their figures are so very interesting, shows just what we can expect from expanded rapid transit here. It is such a joy to behold.

    Between 1971, when it was created, and 2001 ridership increased a whopping 360 percent. Ain’t that grand? While costs only increased by 1,323 percent! Costs merely increased 3.6 times as much as ridership, imagine that. Who says this isn’t a smashing success?

    Not only that, ridership on The Max within the downtown area is free. When they recently extended this to the east side of the city across the river, drug dealers and criminals would commit crimes, hop on the rail, slip across the river and disappear. Now the City gets to employ even more police officers dedicated solely to riding the train to prevent these crimes. What a fantastic use of police resources, don

    City Extras Costing Honolulu Taxpayers Plenty

    So tell me people of Oahu, don’t you just love our potholes? Aren’t our streets just a wonderful patchwork quilt of varying shades and grades of asphalt? Don’t you just love bouncing your way down Beretania or Kalakaua or Kapiolani Blvd? Aren’t the growing cracks and crevices ever so pretty?

    So, you think you’ve paid no price for those pleasant On the Beach functions? Better think again. You think all those beautiful fountains and public works projects in Waikiki didn’t cost you anything extra? Better think again. It cost you plenty. It is costing you plenty still.

    An inkling of how much was documented in a May 5th, 2003 article in ”’The Honolulu Advertiser”’:

    “Hawaii motorists spend an extra $114 million a year in repair and operating costs because of poor road conditions. That comes out to $151 per motorist each year.”

    You see, the money that went into those ribbon cutting projects didn’t go into city upkeep of the roads, and eventually came out of your pocket anyway. The new set of shocks, the extra gas spent creeping around potholes, the fouled fuel injectors, the extra trips to jiffy lube, the flat tire, the new car you had to bite the bullet and buy because your old one was trashed, all were due in part to the rotten condition of our roads. You paid, you just didn’t know you paid. In fact, you paid twice. Once in taxes for the projects and once to repair your car. Isn’t your heart warmed to know the truth?

    Some of you paid in another way as well, from the same article:

    “Poor road conditions are a factor in an estimated 30 percent of traffic fatalities in the state.”

    Yes, some of you paid with your lives, and the lives of your loved ones.

    And the City and the Mayor are getting ready to do it to you again. Are you ready?

    It’s called the In-Town BRT.

    The Mayor and the City are planning to pour several million dollars a day into the roads for dedicated lanes for the BRT and leave the rest of us to rot. The projected cost of this project is around a $1 billion, give or take a few $100 million (Well … Give for sure, it will be guaranteed to have cost overruns, we are talking about government after all.) This will be $1 billion less from city coffers available for needed road and infrastructure repair and maintenance. Unless you are saying we can afford to pay taxes to do both. Oh, I see, you want to pay more taxes. OK.

    Well, in that case, you will pay twice. You will pay in increased taxes to build this thing, (Oh, didn’t the Mayor tell you he will have to raise your taxes to fund this yet? Just wait.) And you will pay in more car repairs and with your lives. All for the privilege of having fewer lanes in and out of Waikiki and for the downtown commute. Isn’t that just wonderful?

    I was driving into Waikiki the other evening to pick up my wife around 7:00 pm and I drove by the “B Express,” that huge articulated thing designed to move crowds. I pulled up one lane over at a light and could see clearly inside. There were 7 passengers. That’s it, 7 people in that huge fuel hog. We have such wonderful central planners, don’t we? Aren’t they ever so efficient?

    Yeah, yeah, I know we have the best bus system in America, it won all the awards and everything to prove it but Portland Oregon, where I am from, has a pretty good system too. It is run by its own agency called the TriMet. They even have the light rail that the City wanted to implement here, one upon a time. It is called The Max. Since it is a single agency they can’t hide their operation costs like the City can here. Their figures are so very interesting, shows just what we can expect from expanded rapid transit here. It is such a joy to behold.

    Between 1971, when it was created, and 2001 ridership increased a whopping 360 percent. Ain’t that grand? While costs only increased by 1,323 percent! Costs merely increased 3.6 times as much as ridership, imagine that. Who says this isn’t a smashing success?

    Not only that, ridership on The Max within the downtown area is free. When they recently extended this to the east side of the city across the river, drug dealers and criminals would commit crimes, hop on the rail, slip across the river and disappear. Now the City gets to employ even more police officers dedicated solely to riding the train to prevent these crimes. What a fantastic use of police resources, don

    City Extras Costing Honolulu Taxpayers Plenty

    So tell me people of Oahu, don’t you just love our potholes? Aren’t our streets just a wonderful patchwork quilt of varying shades and grades of asphalt? Don’t you just love bouncing your way down Beretania or Kalakaua or Kapiolani Blvd? Aren’t the growing cracks and crevices ever so pretty?

    So, you think you’ve paid no price for those pleasant On the Beach functions? Better think again. You think all those beautiful fountains and public works projects in Waikiki didn’t cost you anything extra? Better think again. It cost you plenty. It is costing you plenty still.

    An inkling of how much was documented in a May 5th, 2003 article in ”’The Honolulu Advertiser”’:

    “Hawaii motorists spend an extra $114 million a year in repair and operating costs because of poor road conditions. That comes out to $151 per motorist each year.”

    You see, the money that went into those ribbon cutting projects didn’t go into city upkeep of the roads, and eventually came out of your pocket anyway. The new set of shocks, the extra gas spent creeping around potholes, the fouled fuel injectors, the extra trips to jiffy lube, the flat tire, the new car you had to bite the bullet and buy because your old one was trashed, all were due in part to the rotten condition of our roads. You paid, you just didn’t know you paid. In fact, you paid twice. Once in taxes for the projects and once to repair your car. Isn’t your heart warmed to know the truth?

    Some of you paid in another way as well, from the same article:

    “Poor road conditions are a factor in an estimated 30 percent of traffic fatalities in the state.”

    Yes, some of you paid with your lives, and the lives of your loved ones.

    And the City and the Mayor are getting ready to do it to you again. Are you ready?

    It’s called the In-Town BRT.

    The Mayor and the City are planning to pour several million dollars a day into the roads for dedicated lanes for the BRT and leave the rest of us to rot. The projected cost of this project is around a $1 billion, give or take a few $100 million (Well … Give for sure, it will be guaranteed to have cost overruns, we are talking about government after all.) This will be $1 billion less from city coffers available for needed road and infrastructure repair and maintenance. Unless you are saying we can afford to pay taxes to do both. Oh, I see, you want to pay more taxes. OK.

    Well, in that case, you will pay twice. You will pay in increased taxes to build this thing, (Oh, didn’t the Mayor tell you he will have to raise your taxes to fund this yet? Just wait.) And you will pay in more car repairs and with your lives. All for the privilege of having fewer lanes in and out of Waikiki and for the downtown commute. Isn’t that just wonderful?

    I was driving into Waikiki the other evening to pick up my wife around 7:00 pm and I drove by the “B Express,” that huge articulated thing designed to move crowds. I pulled up one lane over at a light and could see clearly inside. There were 7 passengers. That’s it, 7 people in that huge fuel hog. We have such wonderful central planners, don’t we? Aren’t they ever so efficient?

    Yeah, yeah, I know we have the best bus system in America, it won all the awards and everything to prove it but Portland Oregon, where I am from, has a pretty good system too. It is run by its own agency called the TriMet. They even have the light rail that the City wanted to implement here, one upon a time. It is called The Max. Since it is a single agency they can’t hide their operation costs like the City can here. Their figures are so very interesting, shows just what we can expect from expanded rapid transit here. It is such a joy to behold.

    Between 1971, when it was created, and 2001 ridership increased a whopping 360 percent. Ain’t that grand? While costs only increased by 1,323 percent! Costs merely increased 3.6 times as much as ridership, imagine that. Who says this isn’t a smashing success?

    Not only that, ridership on The Max within the downtown area is free. When they recently extended this to the east side of the city across the river, drug dealers and criminals would commit crimes, hop on the rail, slip across the river and disappear. Now the City gets to employ even more police officers dedicated solely to riding the train to prevent these crimes. What a fantastic use of police resources, don

    Advertiser Plummets to New Low in Bush Editorial

    ”’The Honolulu Advertiser”’ plummets to a new low in its editorial likening of President Bush
    to Imperial Japan’s minister of war, Hideki Tojo, by stating, “The Japanese
    justified their attack on Pearl Harbor in precisely the same way”
    See “Justifications for war shifting like Iraqi sands”; Sunday, July 13, 2003 at

    https://the.honoluluadvertiser.com/article/2003/Jul/13/op/op01a.html

    Right now our brave young servicemen and women are putting everything they
    have on the line in Afghanistan and Iraq to protect us against renewed terrorist
    attacks like those that killed thousands of our countrymen in Lower
    Manhattan, Arlington and aboard four commercial passenger aircraft almost two years
    ago. Why is that so difficult to understand?

    If Advertiser must flex its editorial policy muscle, can’t it find the
    common sense (if not the common decency) to use its influence in support of those
    who are protecting its essential first amendment right to publish?

    The commander in chief and his forces are working to defend the Constitutional
    rights of ”’all”’ of us. Neither he nor they need this ongoing, stab-in-the back
    campaign of half truths, lies, smears and innuendo to discredit them merely
    because a few infantile soreheads in the media and elsewhere cannot accept the
    November 2000 election results. Get ”’over”’ it, already!

    To quote the Department of the Army attorney who let the air out of Joseph
    McCarthy’s balloon almost half a century ago, “Have you at last no decency?”

    One more time (and do try to get it right this time): the justification for
    the ongoing war on terror — a war that has barely gotten underway with
    battles waged in Afghan and Iraqi theaters of operations — has ”’not”’ changed in the
    slightest. Anyone who doubts that should take a trip to Ground Zero. Be
    likewise assured these will ”’not”’ be the last battles waged as part of this war.

    President Bush is a straight arrow who speaks the plain truth. He issued a
    resonating call for courage and patriotism from the well of the House in his
    speech before Congress on Sept. 12, 2001: “Either you are for us or against
    us.” That clear call for American patriots to take a stand was a message
    intended for both foreign and domestic consumption. It compels a defining choice
    between them and us. There is to be no hiding place for terrorists abroad
    and no wiggle room for cowards, weasels or turncoats here at home.

    Here now is your difficult task, ”’Advertiser”’: Choose.

    ”’Thomas E. Stuart, a public school teacher in Kapaau, Hawaii, can be reached via email at:”’ mailto:Thom1s@aol.com

    Advertiser Plummets to New Low in Bush Editorial

    ”’The Honolulu Advertiser”’ plummets to a new low in its editorial likening of President Bush
    to Imperial Japan’s minister of war, Hideki Tojo, by stating, “The Japanese
    justified their attack on Pearl Harbor in precisely the same way”
    See “Justifications for war shifting like Iraqi sands”; Sunday, July 13, 2003 at

    https://the.honoluluadvertiser.com/article/2003/Jul/13/op/op01a.html

    Right now our brave young servicemen and women are putting everything they
    have on the line in Afghanistan and Iraq to protect us against renewed terrorist
    attacks like those that killed thousands of our countrymen in Lower
    Manhattan, Arlington and aboard four commercial passenger aircraft almost two years
    ago. Why is that so difficult to understand?

    If Advertiser must flex its editorial policy muscle, can’t it find the
    common sense (if not the common decency) to use its influence in support of those
    who are protecting its essential first amendment right to publish?

    The commander in chief and his forces are working to defend the Constitutional
    rights of ”’all”’ of us. Neither he nor they need this ongoing, stab-in-the back
    campaign of half truths, lies, smears and innuendo to discredit them merely
    because a few infantile soreheads in the media and elsewhere cannot accept the
    November 2000 election results. Get ”’over”’ it, already!

    To quote the Department of the Army attorney who let the air out of Joseph
    McCarthy’s balloon almost half a century ago, “Have you at last no decency?”

    One more time (and do try to get it right this time): the justification for
    the ongoing war on terror — a war that has barely gotten underway with
    battles waged in Afghan and Iraqi theaters of operations — has ”’not”’ changed in the
    slightest. Anyone who doubts that should take a trip to Ground Zero. Be
    likewise assured these will ”’not”’ be the last battles waged as part of this war.

    President Bush is a straight arrow who speaks the plain truth. He issued a
    resonating call for courage and patriotism from the well of the House in his
    speech before Congress on Sept. 12, 2001: “Either you are for us or against
    us.” That clear call for American patriots to take a stand was a message
    intended for both foreign and domestic consumption. It compels a defining choice
    between them and us. There is to be no hiding place for terrorists abroad
    and no wiggle room for cowards, weasels or turncoats here at home.

    Here now is your difficult task, ”’Advertiser”’: Choose.

    ”’Thomas E. Stuart, a public school teacher in Kapaau, Hawaii, can be reached via email at:”’ mailto:Thom1s@aol.com

    Advertiser Plummets to New Low in Bush Editorial

    ”’The Honolulu Advertiser”’ plummets to a new low in its editorial likening of President Bush
    to Imperial Japan’s minister of war, Hideki Tojo, by stating, “The Japanese
    justified their attack on Pearl Harbor in precisely the same way”
    See “Justifications for war shifting like Iraqi sands”; Sunday, July 13, 2003 at

    https://the.honoluluadvertiser.com/article/2003/Jul/13/op/op01a.html

    Right now our brave young servicemen and women are putting everything they
    have on the line in Afghanistan and Iraq to protect us against renewed terrorist
    attacks like those that killed thousands of our countrymen in Lower
    Manhattan, Arlington and aboard four commercial passenger aircraft almost two years
    ago. Why is that so difficult to understand?

    If Advertiser must flex its editorial policy muscle, can’t it find the
    common sense (if not the common decency) to use its influence in support of those
    who are protecting its essential first amendment right to publish?

    The commander in chief and his forces are working to defend the Constitutional
    rights of ”’all”’ of us. Neither he nor they need this ongoing, stab-in-the back
    campaign of half truths, lies, smears and innuendo to discredit them merely
    because a few infantile soreheads in the media and elsewhere cannot accept the
    November 2000 election results. Get ”’over”’ it, already!

    To quote the Department of the Army attorney who let the air out of Joseph
    McCarthy’s balloon almost half a century ago, “Have you at last no decency?”

    One more time (and do try to get it right this time): the justification for
    the ongoing war on terror — a war that has barely gotten underway with
    battles waged in Afghan and Iraqi theaters of operations — has ”’not”’ changed in the
    slightest. Anyone who doubts that should take a trip to Ground Zero. Be
    likewise assured these will ”’not”’ be the last battles waged as part of this war.

    President Bush is a straight arrow who speaks the plain truth. He issued a
    resonating call for courage and patriotism from the well of the House in his
    speech before Congress on Sept. 12, 2001: “Either you are for us or against
    us.” That clear call for American patriots to take a stand was a message
    intended for both foreign and domestic consumption. It compels a defining choice
    between them and us. There is to be no hiding place for terrorists abroad
    and no wiggle room for cowards, weasels or turncoats here at home.

    Here now is your difficult task, ”’Advertiser”’: Choose.

    ”’Thomas E. Stuart, a public school teacher in Kapaau, Hawaii, can be reached via email at:”’ mailto:Thom1s@aol.com

    Creative Intolerance

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    “Dick Rowland Image”

    Treena Shapiro reported in ”’The Honolulu Advertiser”’ July 12, 2003, “HPD predicts ice numbers will surpass ’02” that police, focusing on inanimate objects like “ice” and “homes and establishments” see worse problems coming. Then Honolulu Prosecutor, Peter Carlisle, was quoted as wanting to “stop children from using the drug while they are still casual users” and worrying they will become a “perpetual slave to addiction.”

    With that kind of thinking, you darn right we have a serious problem. Several of them, in fact. First, ice or any other drug is inert and harmless unless ingested. Individuals ingest it mostly because they want to do so. Thus, if there is a problem it is not ice, it is people. The police are focusing on ice and ice houses when people should be holding their attention. Then Peter Carlisle waits until the child “uses” and then wants to stop it.

    What is wrong with developing the character traits that will help provide the strength to never start?

    Finally, Mr. Carlisle makes excuses for the user who becomes a “perpetual slave to addiction.” If a human being is helpless as a “victim” of ice or any other substance, he or she chooses to be such. To believe otherwise is to deny human strength and resourcefulness. Peter Carlisle, essentially saying the “devil makes them do it,” becomes an enabler. The solution? Intolerance throughout the community. Massive intolerance. For users, enablers, sellers, manufacturers and all who want to medically “treat” people who choose to use.

    Is there an alternative? Of course. It is tolerance. Tolerate users, sellers, enablers, quacks etc. unless they hurt or damage another innocent person. Then throw the book at them — intolerantly.

    ”’Richard O. Rowland is president of the Grassroot Institute of Hawaii, a non-partisan, non-profit public policy institute focused on promoting the free-market, individual freedom and liberty. He can be reached via email at:”’ mailto:grassroot@hawaii.rr.com

    Creative Intolerance

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    “Dick Rowland Image”

    Treena Shapiro reported in ”’The Honolulu Advertiser”’ July 12, 2003, “HPD predicts ice numbers will surpass ’02” that police, focusing on inanimate objects like “ice” and “homes and establishments” see worse problems coming. Then Honolulu Prosecutor, Peter Carlisle, was quoted as wanting to “stop children from using the drug while they are still casual users” and worrying they will become a “perpetual slave to addiction.”

    With that kind of thinking, you darn right we have a serious problem. Several of them, in fact. First, ice or any other drug is inert and harmless unless ingested. Individuals ingest it mostly because they want to do so. Thus, if there is a problem it is not ice, it is people. The police are focusing on ice and ice houses when people should be holding their attention. Then Peter Carlisle waits until the child “uses” and then wants to stop it.

    What is wrong with developing the character traits that will help provide the strength to never start?

    Finally, Mr. Carlisle makes excuses for the user who becomes a “perpetual slave to addiction.” If a human being is helpless as a “victim” of ice or any other substance, he or she chooses to be such. To believe otherwise is to deny human strength and resourcefulness. Peter Carlisle, essentially saying the “devil makes them do it,” becomes an enabler. The solution? Intolerance throughout the community. Massive intolerance. For users, enablers, sellers, manufacturers and all who want to medically “treat” people who choose to use.

    Is there an alternative? Of course. It is tolerance. Tolerate users, sellers, enablers, quacks etc. unless they hurt or damage another innocent person. Then throw the book at them — intolerantly.

    ”’Richard O. Rowland is president of the Grassroot Institute of Hawaii, a non-partisan, non-profit public policy institute focused on promoting the free-market, individual freedom and liberty. He can be reached via email at:”’ mailto:grassroot@hawaii.rr.com