Intimacy Issues

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Suzanne Gelb Image ‘Sexual Pleasure — How do I Enhance Mine?’ Q: Dear Dr. Gelb: I’ve been married four years and I have been faking orgasm with my husband. I only tell you this because I know my name is anonymous. Answers please. A: Dr. Gelb says . . . Dear Answers: Your question makes reference to a secretive and unestablished communication when it comes to intimacy and sexuality. Many couples who have found themselves in the type of situation your describe have sought out a competent sex therapist to assist with learning how to be intimate together, and how to offer each other pleasure. Others who have faced the experience you describe have taken it upon themselves to learn about their own body and why it is not responding to touch — theirs or their mate’s. This type of exploration can offer a person many new, unexplored areas of sensation and pleasure. ‘Marital Intimacy — How do I Cope with Impotency?’ Q: Dear Dr. Gelb: My husband and I have been married for three years. We have been intimate about three times since our wedding. He now tells me that he is impotent. Whose fault is this? Fault A: Dr. Gelb says . . . Dear Fault: The situation you describe appears to be crying out for the guidance and direction of a well-trained sex therapist. By this I mean a professional who is appropriately licensed or certified and experienced in the field of sexuality. While there are those instances where one or both persons in a relationship are afflicted with a serious physical problem that can inhibit their mutual pleasure, it is so sad when a couple misses out on one of the most pleasurable experiences that the body has to offer. ”Suzanne J. Gelb, Ph.D., J.D. authors this daily column, Dr. Gelb Says, which answers questions about daily living and behavior issues. Dr. Gelb is a licensed psychologist in private practice in Honolulu. She holds a Ph.D. in Psychology and a Ph.D. in Human Services. Dr. Gelb is also a published author of a book on Overcoming Addictions and a book on Relationships.” ”This column is intended for entertainment use only and is not intended for the purpose of psychological diagnosis, treatment or personalized advice. For more about the column’s purpose, see” “An Online Intro to Dr. Gelb Says” ”Email your questions to More information on Dr. Gelb’s services and related resources available at”