“Suzanne Gelb Image”

”Today’s Youth – Can They be Tomorrow’s Leaders?”

Dear Dr. Gelb:

When I look at today’s youth and the gangs, promiscuity, bad grades and crazy dress, and I think that some of them may be tomorrow’s leaders, this scares me. Maybe we need stronger restraints from government, even though I usually favor less government. Have we abused free choice to the point where control from an outside force is required?

Out of Control

A: Dr. Gelb says . . .

Dear Out of Control:

Sometimes I have concerns about that issue myself, especially when I go to the mall, drive by a schoolyard, or go in a restaurant where some young people hang out. However, as bad as it may seem, as a therapist I have had occasion to work with young people who suffered a lot of emotional agony, and they have taken advantage of the therapy to turn their lives around. The future has looked especially bright where parents have improved their skills to guide their children. This has led me to think and hope that there are probably many young people who will survive and become good leaders, just like there were those who survived the rebellion of the 60’s.

”Teenage Co-operation – Is it Too Late?”

Dear Dr. Gelb:

My 15-year-old only wears these awful clothes that market a rock band, and she hangs out with kids that are addicted to this fashion. She won’t wear anything else I am having trouble putting my foot down. Otherwise, she has not given us much trouble although I have always let her pick her clothes, most of which I have not liked, but it has never been this outrageous. Is it too late to get co-operation? Should I threaten punishment to get her co-operation?

Dress Code

A: Dr. Gelb says . . .

Dear Dress Code:

Once a child passes age 12, I believe it is probably too late for serious change. As one parent who is struggling with her 14-year-old’s attire commented, “My foot should have come down the first shopping spree that I took Lisa on and allowed her to buy unacceptable attire.” That parent realized that any change that would come about now would probably have to come from her child, unless the parent can resolve the emotional reasons that prompted allowing the child to get away with it this long. Good luck.

Dear Readers:

Answers to questions in today’s column can be supplemented with excerpts from “Yesterday’s Children” (pp. 16-17) written by psychologists Marti Barham, R.N., Ph.D. and Tom Greene, Ph.D. For more information visit my Web site at:”’
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”’Suzanne J. Gelb, Ph.D., J.D. authors this daily column, Dr. Gelb Says, which answers questions about daily living and behavior issues. Dr. Gelb is a licensed psychologist in private practice in Honolulu. She holds a Ph.D. in Psychology and a Ph.D. in Human Services. Dr. Gelb is also a published author of a book on Overcoming Addictions and a book on Relationships.”’

”’This column is intended for entertainment use only and is not intended for the purpose of psychological diagnosis, treatment or personalized advice. For more about the column’s purpose, see”’ “An Online Intro to Dr. Gelb Says”

”’Email your questions to mailto:DrGelbSays@hawaiireporter.com More information on Dr. Gelb’s services and related resources available at”’ https://www.DrGelbSays.com

“Suzanne Gelb Image”

”Today’s Youth – Can They be Tomorrow’s Leaders?”

Dear Dr. Gelb:

When I look at today’s youth and the gangs, promiscuity, bad grades and crazy dress, and I think that some of them may be tomorrow’s leaders, this scares me. Maybe we need stronger restraints from government, even though I usually favor less government. Have we abused free choice to the point where control from an outside force is required?

Out of Control

A: Dr. Gelb says . . .

Dear Out of Control:

Sometimes I have concerns about that issue myself, especially when I go to the mall, drive by a schoolyard, or go in a restaurant where some young people hang out. However, as bad as it may seem, as a therapist I have had occasion to work with young people who suffered a lot of emotional agony, and they have taken advantage of the therapy to turn their lives around. The future has looked especially bright where parents have improved their skills to guide their children. This has led me to think and hope that there are probably many young people who will survive and become good leaders, just like there were those who survived the rebellion of the 60’s.

”Teenage Co-operation – Is it Too Late?”

Dear Dr. Gelb:

My 15-year-old only wears these awful clothes that market a rock band, and she hangs out with kids that are addicted to this fashion. She won’t wear anything else I am having trouble putting my foot down. Otherwise, she has not given us much trouble although I have always let her pick her clothes, most of which I have not liked, but it has never been this outrageous. Is it too late to get co-operation? Should I threaten punishment to get her co-operation?

Dress Code

A: Dr. Gelb says . . .

Dear Dress Code:

Once a child passes age 12, I believe it is probably too late for serious change. As one parent who is struggling with her 14-year-old’s attire commented, “My foot should have come down the first shopping spree that I took Lisa on and allowed her to buy unacceptable attire.” That parent realized that any change that would come about now would probably have to come from her child, unless the parent can resolve the emotional reasons that prompted allowing the child to get away with it this long. Good luck.

Dear Readers:

Answers to questions in today’s column can be supplemented with excerpts from “Yesterday’s Children” (pp. 16-17) written by psychologists Marti Barham, R.N., Ph.D. and Tom Greene, Ph.D. For more information visit my Web site at:”’
Suzanne Gelb Image”
his long. www.DrGelbSays.com

”’Suzanne J. Gelb, Ph.D., J.D. authors this daily column, Dr. Gelb Says, which answers questions about daily living and behavior issues. Dr. Gelb is a licensed psychologist in private practice in Honolulu. She holds a Ph.D. in Psychology and a Ph.D. in Human Services. Dr. Gelb is also a published author of a book on Overcoming Addictions and a book on Relationships.”’

”’This column is intended for entertainment use only and is not intended for the purpose of psychological diagnosis, treatment or personalized advice. For more about the column’s purpose, see”’ “An Online Intro to Dr. Gelb Says”

”’Email your questions to mailto:DrGelbSays@hawaiireporter.com More information on Dr. Gelb’s services and related resources available at”’ https://www.DrGelbSays.com

The following hearing notices, which are subject to change, were sorted and taken from the Hawaii State Capitol Web site. Please check that site for updates and/or changes to the schedule at

“Hawaii State Legislature Sidebar”

Go there and click on the Hearing Date to view the Hearing Notice.

Hearings notices for both House and Senate measures in all committees:

Hearing

”Date Time Bill Number Measure Title Committee”

3/10/03 9:00 AM SCR33 URGING THE STATE TO PURSUE LITIGATION AGAINST CHEVRONTEXACO FOR NONPAYMENT OF TAXES. CPH

3/10/03 9:00 AM SR21 URGING THE STATE TO PURSUE LITIGATION AGAINST CHEVRONTEXACO FOR NONPAYMENT OF TAXES. CPH

3/10/03 9:00 AM HCR22 URGING THE UNITED STATES DEPARTMENT OF HOMELAND SECURITY TO RELAX RESTRICTIONS ON THE GRANTING OF NONIMMIGRANT VISAS TO NATIONALS OF THE PEOPLE’S REPUBLIC OF CHINA FOR THE PURPOSE OF BUSINESS, TOURISM, AND STUDY IN THE UNITED STATES. INT

3/10/03 9:00 AM HCR28 REQUESTING CONGRESS TO FULLY FUND THE MILLENNIUM CHALLENGE ACCOUNT AND INVOLVE WOMEN AS FULL AND ACTIVE PARTICIPANTS IN ECONOMIC DEVELOPMENT ASSISTANCE PROGRAMS IN THEIR NATIONS. INT

3/10/03 9:00 AM HCR29 REQUESTING CONGRESS TO END THE “GLOBAL GAG RULE” IMPOSED ON INTERNATIONAL FAMILY PLANNING ORGANIZATIONS. INT

3/10/03 9:00 AM HCR35 SUPPORTING THE PACIFIC BASIN ECONOMIC COUNCIL AND ENCOURAGING IT TO MAINTAIN ITS HEADQUARTERS IN HAWAII. INT

3/10/03 9:00 AM HCR50 URGING THE UNITED STATES CONGRESS TO ELIMINATE STATE AND LOCAL COST SHARE REQUIREMENTS FOR HOMELAND SECURITY GRANTS. INT

3/10/03 9:00 AM HCR52 ESTABLISHING A SISTER STATE-PREFECTURE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN THE STATE OF HAWAII OF THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA AND THE EHIME PREFECTURE OF JAPAN. INT

3/10/03 9:00 AM HR26 URGING THE UNITED STATES DEPARTMENT OF HOMELAND SECURITY TO RELAX RESTRICTIONS ON THE GRANTING OF NONIMMIGRANT VISAS TO NATIONALS OF THE PEOPLE’S REPUBLIC OF CHINA FOR THE PURPOSE OF BUSINESS, TOURISM, AND STUDY IN THE UNITED STATES. INT

3/10/03 9:00 AM HR33 REQUESTING CONGRESS TO FULLY FUND THE MILLENNIUM CHALLENGE ACCOUNT AND INVOLVE WOMEN AS FULL AND ACTIVE PARTICIPANTS IN ECONOMIC DEVELOPMENT ASSISTANCE PROGRAMS IN THEIR NATIONS. INT

3/10/03 9:00 AM HR34 REQUESTING CONGRESS TO END THE “GLOBAL GAG RULE” IMPOSED ON INTERNATIONAL FAMILY PLANNING ORGANIZATIONS. INT

3/10/03 9:00 AM HR38 SUPPORTING THE PACIFIC BASIN ECONOMIC COUNCIL AND ENCOURAGING IT TO MAINTAIN ITS HEADQUARTERS IN HAWAII. INT

3/10/03 9:00 AM HR53 URGING THE UNITED STATES CONGRESS TO ELIMINATE STATE AND LOCAL COST SHARE REQUIREMENTS FOR HOMELAND SECURITY GRANTS. INT

3/10/03 9:00 AM HR55 ESTABLISHING A SISTER STATE-PREFECTURE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN THE STATE OF HAWAII OF THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA AND THE EHIME PREFECTURE OF JAPAN. INT

”Date Time Bill Number Measure Title Committee”

3/10/03 1:00 PM None Informational Briefing EDN/EDU/SAT

3/10/03 1:00 PM SCR5 EXPRESSING SUPPORT FOR THE MILITARY AFFAIRS COUNCIL OF THE CHAMBER OF COMMERCE OF HAWAII IN ITS EFFORTS TO IMPROVE THE QUALITY OF LIFE FOR MILITARY PERSONNEL STATIONED IN HAWAII. TMG

3/10/03 1:00 PM SCR27 REQUESTING THE HAWAII CONGRESSIONAL DELEGATION TO LOOK INTO EXPANDING THE ANTITRUST EXEMPTION TO ENABLE HAWAIIAN AIRLINES TO COORDINATE INDIVIDUAL ROUTE SCHEDULES. TMG

3/10/03 1:00 PM SCR29 URGING THE STATE, COUNTIES, AND PARTICIPATING PRIVATE ENTITIES TO SUPPORT THE DEVELOPMENT AND ESTABLISHMENT OF AN OFFICIALLY RECOGNIZED URBAN SEARCH AND RESCUE TEAM IN HAWAII. TMG

3/10/03 1:00 PM SR16 REQUESTING THE HAWAII CONGRESSIONAL DELEGATION TO LOOK INTO EXPANDING THE ANTITRUST EXEMPTION TO ENABLE HAWAIIAN AIRLINES TO COORDINATE INDIVIDUAL ROUTE SCHEDULES. TMG

3/10/03 1:00 PM SR17 URGING THE STATE, COUNTIES, AND PARTICIPATING PRIVATE ENTITIES TO SUPPORT THE DEVELOPMENT AND ESTABLISHMENT OF AN OFFICIALLY RECOGNIZED URBAN SEARCH AND RESCUE TEAM IN HAWAII. TMG

”Date Time Bill Number Measure Title Committee”

3/10/03 1:15 PM HB29 HD1 RELATING TO MEAL BREAKS. LBR

3/10/03 1:15 PM HB132 HD1 RELATING TO PUBLIC OFFICERS AND EMPLOYEES AND EMPLOYMENT PRACTICES. LBR

3/10/03 1:15 PM HB287 HD3 RELATING TO PUBLIC EMPLOYEES. LBR

3/10/03 1:15 PM HB290 HD2 RELATING TO UNEMPLOYMENT. LBR

3/10/03 1:15 PM HB389 HD2 RELATING TO FAMILY LEAVE. LBR

3/10/03 1:15 PM HB531 RELATING TO PUBLIC EMPLOYEES. LBR

3/10/03 1:15 PM HB968 HD1 RELATING TO UNEMPLOYMENT BENEFITS. LBR

3/10/03 1:15 PM HB986 HD2 RELATING TO DEATH BENEFITS OF SURVIVING CHILDREN OF PUBLIC EMPLOYEES. LBR

3/10/03 1:15 PM HB1373 RELATING TO PUBLIC EMPLOYEES. LBR

”’To reach legislators, see:”’ “Representatives at a Glance” and “Senators at a Glance”

Hello, as a center-of-the-road political person who reads the HawaiiReporter for news, I would like to point out that one of the things I find particularly distasteful are the non-factual rants I periodically see on the sight.

Most recently it has been the carrying on about the Honolulu Advertiser’s poll, which surveyed 603 people. I am sure there is a statistical basis for the selection of approximately 603 people as a random sample. Whether the question was asked in a unbiased manner is another matter, I believe the phrasing was intended to encourage yes answers. Your act of drawing conclusions between of the Hawaii Reporter’s periodic polls, which are even worse than the Advertiser’s since your sample is not random, and the Advertiser’s is tiresome and ridiculous.

Another example was all the comments added into the text of the mayor’s address. Text added to point out incorrect statements are a useful item, but you filled that speech with ridiculous commentary, which was as tiresome as the speech.

Most of the news analysis, which seems accurate, though right leaning, I find interesting and well done.

You may want to point out to readers that Gov. Lingle, whom I admire, quoted a survey of 700 people in an article on the establishment of individual school boards in Friday’s Star-Bulletin.

”’Jon Winsley can be reached via email at:”’ mailto:jon@winsley.us

The Office of the Governor will run out of money at the end of March 2003, according to Bob Awana, chief of staff for Gov. Linda Lingle, because the $1 million emergency appropriation the governor requested several weeks ago from the state Legislature has not yet been approved by the House and Senate.

Lingle, who worked from the moment she got into office to balance the state budget with at least a $180 million shortfall, was told three days before she took office that the Legislature had axed the governor’s FY 2003 $3.4 million budget by $993,000.

But that wasn’t the only bad news. Former Gov. Benjamin Cayetano already had spent nearly all of the $3,300,700 remaining, according to his then Chief of Staff Sam Callejo, leaving just $400,000 for Lingle to operate the governor’s office for six more months until the end of the fiscal year in June 2003.

Though the new administration scraped together slightly more than the $400,000 to keep the office going for three months, instead of the two months the $400,000 would normally fund, the jobs of the 65 remaining personnel in the governor’s office are now in jeopardy. That is because there is simply no more money to pay them or their benefits after March 2003, Awana says. The governor needs back the $993,000, or nearly $1 million slashed from her budget before she ever took office, Awana says, and she needs it now.

But the Democrats majority in the state House refuses to acknowledge the governor’s tenuous position, saying she has plenty of money to operate her office, in fact, according to the state Rep. Scott Saiki, the governor has $3.4 million, more than was allocated in FY 2002 or FY 2001.

House Finance Chair Dwight Takamine attacked Lingle, saying his committee had slashed her emergency request to $590,000, because she did not need the $1 million. He said the governor imposed a 2.5 percent to 5 percent cut on all state agencies, so her budget should have to be cut too. He also said she should not have asked for $1 million, when she really just needed $993,000 to make up the difference. He then attempted to justify the further cuts, saying the governor’s office should suffer at least another 5 percent reduction for her entire executive branch operations.

House Republicans fired back that taking $410,000 from a $1 million appropriation is considerably more than a 5 percent or 10 percent cut. House Minority Leader Galen Fox pleaded with the Democrat leadership to restore the cuts and pass the full emergency appropriation immediately. The debate went on for more than two hours.

Democrats also began to make fun of the governor for requesting in the $1 million emergency an allocation, because a small portion of the allocation was to be used to buy furniture and recover some existing furniture for the governor’s home.

When Lingle moved in to the new governor’s home, she learned the home had been constructed but left completely unfurnished in the end of 2002 by the prior administration, and there was no money allocated for furniture.

State Rep. Kirk Caldwell, D- Manoa, went through Lingle’s list of furniture items requested, piece by piece, mocking the governor for requesting an armoire, comparing the governor to King Louis of France who he says was the first person to have an armoire. He went on to explain to the Legislature what an armoire was, but was stopped by Republican House members who pointed out many Democrat legislators actually have armoire, or stand-alone closets, in their offices. Cauldwell was not deterred, saying the governor should not be requesting rugs for the wood-floored house, or window coverings for the now open windows, or an entertainment center for $2,000. He pointed out the new home had been built with private funds raised by the former governor, and that Lingle should get private funds to furnish the home.

Rep. Michael Puamamo Kahikina, D-Waianae, said Lingle should just move back into Washington Place, where the former governor and his wife lived, until the state comes into better fiscal times. “If it was good enough for the former governor and first lady, it should be good enough for her.”

But Republicans point out Gov. Benjamin Cayetano had built the new home to keep his promise to the Hawaiian people that he’d return Washington Place, the home of former Queen Liliuokalani, to the Hawaiian people and the general public, before he left office in 2002. That was one of the few promises he kept, and they don’t want to be responsible for breaking his promise to the Hawaiian people.

At the end of a considerable debate that went on for more than two hours, the Republicans were forced to vote with strong reservations in favor of a bill that would approve the governor’s emergency request at $590,000 instead of $1 million. That is because if they had voted no, no money would have been allocated to the governor’s office, not even the $590,000, because the bill would have died. Now the request goes to the Senate for its approval and consideration.

Those upset with the actions of the House, say the the House played politics with the governor in order to make her job more difficult and in order to put her office operations and staff at risk. They pointed to the fact that the bill was the last of several hundred in the House, before it was passed to the Senate, a comment the Democat leadership took great offense to.

Those upset with the House’s action point to the fact that the Legislature recently sent its budget request for funding to operate this session, a request the governor immediately signed.

While some suggested she should hold the $1 million in funding until the Democrats approve her $1 million funding, the governor said she doesn’t want to play political games.